All of the points you've made are valid and true, but I still don't understand how it contradicts anything that I, in the main post, said?

I can list down a number of parents doing exactly what you said without giving their children tonnes of psychological issues. There's a difference between protecting your children and hurting them in the name of protection. And the difference is just that: superiority complex. People have forgotten that being a parent is a responsibility, not a favour. While it is great and admirable to do all that for your kids, it does not nullify the fact that you CHOSE it. Your kids didn't ask to be born. It was your choice to bring them into the world, and it's your duty to take care of them. They owe you nothing.

It is not to be ungrateful. Just like every parent wants the best for their kids, every child wants to think the best of their parents. Not one kid grows up thinking, "okay I want so desperately to hate my parents." And most don't. Even after the toxicity they were put through, they do love and respect their parents. However, this doesn't mean it shouldn't be changed. Listing down everything a parent does for their child—a child who doesn't have any wisdom to deal with the world, is often a successful attempt to make them feel guilt-ridden for being their own person. Everytime a kid has any disagreements, discomfort or wants to make a choice of their own, this never-missing bullet is shot through their chest successfully killing that child's blooming personality.

Maybe not every child is a parent to be able to understand the struggles of parenting, but every parent was a child to be able to understand the struggles of childhood. Maybe they don't seem a big deal to you now as an adult, but they were a bloody big deal when they were happening to you. No child deserves to feel unsafe within their own family.

Honestly, this cycle of generational trauma needs to end. Being strict sometimes and being controlling are two different things.