The first in the 17 relationship red flags, according to therapists, is to rush a new relationship too quickly: “Popularly referred to as ‘love bombing,’ this red flag isn’t necessarily about the new partner who says ‘I love you’ too soon or who wants to move in together after five dates. Love bombing becomes worrying when ‘one person is trying to manipulate the other into a situation of dependency,’” SELF reports.

What counts as a red flag then?

A first date on a private jet with your date’s ex-wife, child and bodyguards with a side of caviar? The seemingly innocent but dangerously concerning need for control “miss you” less than 48 hours of knowing each other? Asking them to move in with you into a $15,000 per month rented apartment in the span of five dates, as a segue into throwing them into millions of dollars worth of debt?

The Netflix documentary Tinder Swindler documents the dating ponzi scheme crafted by Shimon Hayut aka Simon Leviev, where he wooes women from dating apps as a mysterious, diamond-minting millionaire figure whose life is constantly in danger.

He traps these women into debt by convincing them that his life depends on their money. The women plunge into a debt of $10 million dollars (in total) while Leviev uses their money on other caviar-filled dates.

The show echoes the cycles of control, abuse and love-bombing in how Leviev sucks his love interests in, and makes it impossible for them to leave — if they decide to abandon him, what would happen to all their savings worth $10,000 they lent? And surely, given the history of his lavish expenses, he would pay them back?

Although Tinder Swindler is trending, the documentary falls flat. The overdramatized soundtracks and the over-emphasis on chivalry and its family of gender stereotypes are beyond archaic and tired, even in the cis-het world, no?

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And hold your horses if you’re about to delete your dating apps – Leviev has been banned from Tinder. Now he is making his own dating show. Would you watch it?