1 That their behavior is a language that so often means they're hungry, tired, overwhelmed or stressed.

2 That their growing bodies, changing brains and swinging hormones drive so much of their uncontrollable attitudes and outbursts.

3 That they're really not plotting against me; they're struggling and they need my help and guidance.

4 That quite often they're just as confused by their snarky attitudes as I am.

5 That nothing can fix a crummy mood faster than their favorite food and space to decompress.

6 That conflict is normal. They're just trying independence on for size and I shouldn't freak out.

7 That more than anything, they need to feel loved, understood and accepted just the way they are.

8 They really ARE trying.

9 They're going to make mistakes... they're learning.

10 They want me to love them enough to let them fly.