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Well put!
True marital relationships are less..a lot are domestic slave system
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Some time ago, I read the Aziz Ansari book, 'Modern Love.' In it he argued for arranged marriage, pointing to the case of his own parents as an example. His parents had gotten an arranged marriage and were very happy together, which is a nice story, but hardly representative.
Ansari points to the low divorce rate in India as a sign that Indians are doing something right, and that our marriages are somehow stronger. But I don't think that's the case at all.
If you went by the low divorce rates in my family, you might assume that it was full of happy marriages. But that could not be more of a lie. Many women in my family were tied to abusive men, to men who committed infidelity, to men who were cruel and contemptuous and made their lives unhappy for several decades. I wish for my great-grandmother's sake that they would have had the freedom to leave.
It's because divorce is so taboo in Indian society that they could not (as well as the lack of financial agency and empowerment in the past).
I would be much happier with a higher divorce rate in India because at least it would reflect the truth: not all marriages succeed, and there shouldn't be any shame in saying so.