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This world isn’t good enough to bring in more new lives in it
Well said !
I don't want kids. I'm childfree.
The preferred term is 'childfree' rather than 'childless', because childless implies lack. It is a word that should shut down further discussion, because it's just a statement of my choice. It's no different from saying that I will have green beans for dinner rather than onion soup - it's certainly not something that should invite critique.
It's not an opening for anyone to call my choices into question, and yet this is what repeatedly happens. "Who will look after you in your old age?" "Isn't that selfish?" "Your partner will want kids." "You will change your mind, just wait and see." "Children are a blessing and you won't feel complete as a woman without them" these are some of the most common responses I get.
I don't think that conventional Indians can handle this 'childfree' business at all! They are too used to a culture of emotional blackmail and guilting people about when they will get to see their grandchildren.
But from my experience, the best way to handle this is to smile sweetly and simply refuse to debate them further. I don't care if it's perceived as a selfish or shocking choice (although it isn't).
There are any number of valid reasons not to have kids. I value my sleep and leisure time too much. OR, I don't live in a society with enough institutional support for mothers during a pandemic. OR, I’m worried about climate disaster. And many more reasons, but I don't have to tell them to you.
It's enough for me to say that I don't want to do that.